The following 3 tactics are ‘states’ - and being in these states is within your control - so no excuses. These ‘out of your head’ tactics are learnable and your ability to use them will increase with practice - like most things.
Here’s your motivation for practising:
Self-consciousness or being ‘inside your head’ is a barrier that stands between you and the success of your business.
When you are too self-conscious you become:
I could go on.
None of the above are going to help you grow yourself and your business - so here is the far better alternative to this self-consciousness:-
If you practice being these - you will get out of your head and into the moment - you will become clearer and more engaging - good things will happen.
'Gradually I learned to be indifferent to myself and my deficiencies; I came to centre my attention increasingly upon external objects: the state of the world, various branches of knowledge, individuals for whom I felt affection.' Bertrand Russell
Why and how?
Here is a brief overview (although each would be the subject of an entire blog post).
‘..all you need to do in order to be present is to ignore one of the most basic human instincts you have: you need to stop thinking ahead.’
How To Be The Greatest Improviser On Earth - Will Hines
Don’t be too confined by rules - unless they are legal requirements! Go with the flow and avoid getting hung up on right or wrong. Avoid making assumptions!
After all - you were a kid self-consciousness was far less of an issue!
‘Life without play is a grinding, mechanical existence, organised around doing the things necessary for survival. Play is the stick that stirs the drink. It is the basis of all art, games, books, sports, movies, fashion, fun and wonder - in short, the basis of what we think of as civilization. Play is the vital essence of life. It is what makes life lively.’ Play - Stuart Brown M.D
‘A person who pays attention to an interaction instead of worrying about the self, obtains a paradoxical result. She no longer feels like a separate individual, yet her self becomes stronger’ - Flow - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Is it getting in your way of communicating effectively? Is it making you anxious about public speaking? Is it making you a less engaging communicator? Well - first step - do the test!
Sign up below to receive your Self-Conscious Level Test - devised by Rich Masters - Reinvestment Scale 1993 (Researching how skill breakdowns under pressure).
I help people become more effective communicators through the kind of coaching that offers a safe space to explore and rehearse and better understand the impact they have. My blog is full of insights and tactics that will help you break down the barriers that prevent you from being a truly effective communicator. These insights are based on my own experience as well as the issues raised during coaching sessions and workshops.